Encouragement

Praising your child and giving them positive reinforcement is the natural thing to do. As a parent no one wants to give their child bad news, or put them down in a negative way. We are always trying to encourage our kids to do their best. Researchers have been looking at how this reinforcement is actually affecting our children. In the article How Not to Talk to Your Kids (Links to an external site.) and the video  “The Myth of Praise.” (Links to an external site.) they explain the effects of praises on our children, and actually conduct an experiment to prove the point.

Research shows that continually praising our children and telling them they are smart actually drives them to be less determined, and they will not want to do things they are not instantly good at. This does not however mean that we should discourage our kids.  The best way to help our children succeed is to encourage them but not to over do it. To also develop them in a way to where they work hard for the things they earn. Instead of just telling them they are smart you should say that they must have worked really hard to accomplish what they did. This not only is positive but it helps them do better with harder tasks. 

Ultimately creating stronger individuals with more motive to be able to accomplish harder tasks and pursue things that do  not come easily to them.